There's another parallel world called.."If I was free.."

What do you think ..
Are you free? 
Do you have the freedom to do whatever you want to.. whatever you like doing.. Wherever your hearts tell you to go, eat things you like, choose whatever heart tells you to..

Most of the people would answer to this question, or to one of the questions..NO..
So what do you think are you free?
Can you live your life on your terms?

No.. the answer is No.. Fortunate are the ones who answer YES
We..All of us has 2 worlds, one which we are living and another one is called 
"If I was free..." " If I could..."

The society has burdened us with the below-mentioned sentences :
- sometimes you have to compromise
- sometimes.. you will have to Adjust yourself as per situations..
- Sometimes you have to live life for others..
- Think about others too..
- Life can't be lived like this..etc etc

We don't realise that its perfect to follow what has been written above, there's nothing wrong in it but..we don't realise when this 'Sometimes' occupy 'All the times' in our lives..

and then there's always another parallel world which gets created around us called "If I was free..." " If I could..." and keeps influencing all are decisions.

Team Dynamism

#Fashion #Lifestyle & #Travel leaving all these and a few more interesting topics, Why am I talking about Team Dynamism?
Football season has just ended, Team Croatia couldn't win the world cup but has definitely won hearts of millions.
As #trending topics get you a whatsapp forwarded messages, I received one before the world cop final, and that probably made me think about #teamDynamism and I thought of writing on this topic.

So the message goes like this :

There is no 'I' in 'TEAM'

Nikola Kalinic : He is a Croatian Footballer.
In Croatia's first group match against Nigeria he refused to play as the substitute because his ego that felt he is more important than being a substitute.

Next Day he was sent back home!

Last night his teammates reached country's first ever World Cup Final, while
Kalinic is sitting at home! 

A lot of managers fail to understand, how important it is to maintain team dynamics and work environment.
In my advertising career, being Client servicing executive I have always been mentored and told by my seniors, that while briefing a creative person If you put garbage in, expect a garbage in return.

This is what happens in other areas as well, Garbage in-Garbage out!
Period!

Nikola is a great individual player, but I must say,
Finding good players is easy, Getting them to play as a team is another story.
and building that story is the primary job of any leader.

If team dynamics is maintained and team members are motivated enough, productivity is a byproduct.
Little more efforts in product understanding and product training.. and you are through.

Start your process, by 'getting together' right kind of people, 'keeping them together' is the next step and 'working together' will definitely fetch you good returns.

Another quote that I had read in one of the articles, 
You can assign tasks, but you can't force people to be accountable.
Accountability is an act of will..! 

And hence I feel team dynamism plays a very important role here as, work environment and team dynamics directly affects the productivity and willingness to work towards achieving the common goal.
and these two things are achieved, accountability is again a byproduct.

So a plinth needs to be strong and then the rest is managed in auto pilot mode.

   

जो बीत गई सो बात गई

One of my colleagues had introduced me to this poem by Dr.Harivansh Rai Bachchan.

जीवन में एक सितारा था

माना वह बेहद प्यारा था

वह डूब गया तो डूब गया

अम्बर के आनन को देखो

कितने इसके तारे टूटे

कितने इसके प्यारे छूटे

जो छूट गए फिर कहाँ मिले

पर बोलो टूटे तारों पर

कब अम्बर शोक मनाता है

जो बीत गई सो बात गई

Jo Beet Gayi so baat gayi? Itna aasan hota hai life me accept karna toh kya baat thi.. But the way he has explained this clarity taking different examples from nature is just amazing.

जीवन में वह था एक कुसुम

थे उसपर नित्य निछावर तुम

वह सूख गया तो सूख गया

मधुवन की छाती को देखो

सूखी कितनी इसकी कलियाँ

मुर्झाई कितनी वल्लरियाँ

जो मुर्झाई फिर कहाँ खिली

पर बोलो सूखे फूलों पर

कब मधुवन शोर मचाता है

जो बीत गई सो बात गई

Anyway cribbing over something which is done, doesn't help.
so why not leave it when we realise that it is done. If at all sharing this 'kavita' helps you accept this fact even by 1% I think my job is done!

#Amazon Why #alexa ?

So...

One evening after our gym session, when the jamming session started we were discussing how virtual assistants like #okgoogle #siri and #alexa has been designed...

we girls, were amazed at how these virtual assistants follow and do things as you instruct them to..

You must be thinking, The title sounds little dramatically or grammatically wrong ..is it..?

But it is a question which everyone probably should ask #Amazon

Why alexa and not #peter or why atleast not give an option where I decide my own name for my #alexa 'the virtual assistant' 

It could be anything I want.. 

Someone who decided this name, I wonder his(assuming it is him) thought process.. That I will have a virtual assistant who will be able to assist me in every way possible.
Great product idea! 
I belong to marketing and sales and hence I know the importance of a product innovation, done to make life easier and convenient ..  

The only question I had..why a female name?

'Sexism' is a heavy word though.. however ..if you look at the definition of sexism, It is prejudice or discrimination based on a person's sex or gender. 
Sexism can affect anyone, but it primarily affects women and girls.

It has been linked to stereotypes and gender roles and may include the belief that one sex or gender is intrinsically superior to another.

I don't say so,

-Journal orpersonalily and social Psychology1995, Vol. 68, No. 2, 199-214Copyright 1995 by the American Psychological Association, Inc.0022-3514/95/S3.00 does.

In social philosophy, objectification is the act of treating a person as an object or thing. According to the philosopher Martha Nussbaum, a person might be objectified if one or more of the following properties are applied to them:

Instrumentality – treating the object as a tool for another's purposes: "The objectifier treats the object as a tool of his or her purposes."

Denial of Autonomy – treating the object as lacking in autonomy or self-determination: "The objectifier treats the object as lacking in autonomy and self-determination."

Inertness – treating the object as lacking in agency or activity: "The objectifier treats the object as lacking in agency, and perhaps also in activity."

Violability – treating the object as lacking in boundary integrity and violable: "The objectifier treats the object as lacking in boundary integrity, as something that it is permissible to break up, smash, break into."

Ownership – treating the object as if it can be owned, bought, or sold: "The objectifier treats the object as something that is owned by another, can be bought or sold, etc."

Fungibility – treating the object as interchangeable with other objects: "The objectifier treats the object as interchangeable (a) with other objects of the same type, and/or (b) with objects of other types."

Denial of Subjectivity – treating the object as if there is no need for concern for its experiences or feelings: "The objectifier treats the object as something whose experience and feelings (if any) need not be taken into account."

and then an idea, why not have an object which will do everything for you!
And probably then the virtual assistant concept is thought of.
A great idea! 

But the question still remains, why Alexa? 
Would really like to know if someone has an answer! 

The Semi-Colon ;

Huh .. Here I am on the same blog account after almost 10years.. Just saw my previous blogs and felt like editing them first rather than writing a new one.
But let's start a new story than editing a previous one!

Ohk so the story of 'Semicolon' started a few years back when I was finally deciding that I will get myself inked.
My first tattoo.. what will be the topic, why will I have something permanent on my body.. If it is..then it needs to be that special..
then I started writing down things I love..
- Dance..
- A good Laugh..
- Laugh?? No.. "Its Being Happy"
- Sales (not relevant though but one of the things I love investing my time in) ,
- Friends?? ..
- someone special who changed my life (Definitely Maitreyi ji , you all already know him if you have read the first blog I attempted to write 10years back.)

I was contemplating for quite some time now, 4years to be precise .. which tattoo will be the one! Thought of having a date inked ..The day I met Maitreyiji.. But honestly, I don't remember the exact date.

Then I thought why not have something which will talk about my life after I met him?
He taught me, how to live life to the fullest.. Nothing is impossible.. #Hapiness is my #Birthright

He calls me "Leela".. named me after a beautiful song which says..
Leela Leela ..life is just a play.." (..hear the song )
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MitCHuR2nrU

I generally don't take Life that seriously, that helps me come out of any situation quickly..because I believe "This too shall pass"...
So why not have a tattoo in an interesting font "this too shall pass.." ??
What does that communicate? "Hope"..

Then I started searching something on HOPE.. I came across a beautiful story of a bumblebee

Then I almost had decided to ink Bumblebee

But to be honest here.. I searched a lot ..Did a lot of research but couldn't find someone or any reference picture of a good-looking Bumblebee  ☺☺and then again my journey to have a #tattoo prolonged for some time. While doing my reasearch on hapiness and Hope I came across a project Semicolon.Based in Green Bay, Wisconsin, Project Semicolon attempts to tell each person that the story isn’t over.It’s a faith-based nonprofit that encourages each person to keep battling depression, self-harm and other issues.Amy Bleuel fought against mental illness and depression throughout her life.In fact, she lost her father to suicide some time ago.That spurred Bleuel to create Project Semicolon in 2013. The project started as a way of honouring her father, and now it symbolizes hope for a countless number of people.Since then, it has grown to represent millions of people that want to share their stories and continue them until the proper ending is written.According to me (and people who know me) ..would know that, this perfectly explains who I am as a person...I always have a story to tell, and I believe every day there's new hope, there's new story...everyday there's new excitement... I would always have a story which continues from the story which you heard last, As I am always in search of Hapiness..hence after every moment in my life, there will always be a Semicolon..

A new story of ..me who's In search of Happiness..A story which is unheard.. and continues no matter what..So the story isn't over yet! 

What happened to the one who was lying down in blood on the road side??

Life gives you opportunity to help someone, in such situations don’t think too much... Just do it…! 
The amount of happiness you get is incomparable...

An opportunity to help someone is just in front of you sometimes… but just because they are right in front of you... You don’t see them.
Today I saw one accident… Instead of helping him reach hospital people were asking him questions, discussing among themselves what has happened and if he’s from Pune, whether he’s hurt too much n blah blah blah…..

To reach office I have my own short cuts, today I changed my way (for no reason)...
But I could understand afterwards that Existence wanted me to become the medium to help that person lying out there.
I could take him to the hospital, called his brother and reached office with a peace in my heart.

When I stopped my vehicle after watching him there, like other people even I was thinking …
- It’ll be a police case, why to get involved?
- What if no one comes from his side?
- Who will pay auto fair and for that matter the hospital charges?
Aaj late mark lag gaya toh 1din ka salary cut ho jayega.. N what not…

While these thoughts were playing football in my mind, like all the players run behind one ball… I just thought for a while …
What if this person was my brother? Or father..? Or the one I love…
I would have thought so much? 
The answer came: NO…and I just took him to the hospital thinking that even he must be someone’s brother or son.

“A salary of day is not more than someone’s life”...
I thank existence for this experience... Happy to become a medium...
If I would not have helped him, I always would have thought about him….. That…
What happened to the one who was lying down in blood on the road side??

बऱ्याच दिवसांनी..

बऱ्याच दिवसांनी कही तरी लिहू म्हटला...लास्ट ब्लॉग कधी लिहिला आठवेना मग म्हटला आज एक होऊंनच जाउदेत ..
तसा share करायला आहे बरच काही पण public मधे लिहावा की नाही हाच एक प्रश्न.
शेवटी न राहवून म्हटल की चला पहुयात यावर तुमच काय म्हनन आहे तुम्हा सगल्यांच जे हा ब्लॉग वाचत आहेत..
आपल्या मनात इतक्या गोष्टी फुगडी खेळत असतात..काही आपल्या अगदी जावालाचा  अणि कही उगीचच .. मानाने एक रेखा अखालेली ..कोणत्या गोष्टी share कराव्यात अणि कोणत्या ठेवाव्यात जपून एका मखमली पेटित..नेहमी साथी..
..........अणि काही ज्य़ा फ़क्त नाही सांगू शकणार म्हणून ..दडवलेल्या..  :)
अशाच कित्तेक तरी गोष्टी ओठांवर येवून थाम्बलेल्या .. तुमच्या कड़े आहेत ना अशाच गोष्टी काही दडवलेल्या..काही  दवड्लेल्या :) ह्या दोन शब्दांमधे दिसायला जास्त फरक नाही पण अर्थ पहाल तर बरच काही :) ...
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मी तीनच ओळी सोडल्या पण तुमच्या मनात उठत असलेल्या ह्या  दडवलेल्या आणि दवड्लेल्या गोशी ह्या तीन ओळीन पलिकडे गेल्या ना ???